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Stressful and tough 

Stress is a pretty awful thing to deal with. Agreed? What would you think if I told you that even though stress may cause negative effects on the body that in small doses it can actually work as a positive in your life? Yes, I said stress can work as a positive. Although too much stress can cause a number of negative effects not only in your life but on your body as well, stress in small does can actually help you out if you know how to take a step back and look at things a from a different perspective. This may seem hard to do especially when under a lot of stress but once you get the hang of it, you can start to use your stress to your advantage.

For instance, if you are taking classes and find out you have test that doesn’t reflect too much on your grade etc. you may not feel much pressure or “stress” to do very well on it causing you to maybe sluff off your study time or not take the test as seriously as you would if it were a mid term or final exam, lets say. However come mid term/final exam time, you will more than likely feel the effects of stress starting to play and feeling this way may cause you to want to spend extra time studying or focusing more intently on the seriousness of the exam.

 

Another great example of how stress can be of assistance is that its a good indicator that you are not where you need to be in life or that something needs to change. If you are constantly feeling stressed at work or in life, maybe you need to take a step back and refocus on what you want and what makes you happy. At times it may be that nothing around you really needs to change but your actions might need to be redirected or maybe you need to add something back into your life. Either way that stress has made you uncomfortable enough in life to make you DO something about it and we all know that action is what makes us move forward in life.

 

Stress is one of our bodies reactions and with it comes energy and stength, so what we do with that excess energy is pretty important. You can help manage your stress with excersise, sports or even dance. Physical activities are really great tools to help reduce and manage your stress levels along with more soothing activies such as reading, writing, painting, singing, listening to calming music and of course meditation. Next time you’re feeling stressed try taking a couple deep breaths, practice one of your anti stress methods that works best for you and listen to what your body is telling you.

Sexual Abuse

Sexual Abuse – the Worst thing Your Child Can Go Through
OrProtect your Child against Sexual Abuse

When an offender or perpetrator harms a child or minor physically, sexually or
psychologically, it is known as sexual abuse. Though the child is not in a
position to consent to any such sexual activity, it is thus considered a crime that
has a lasting impact on the victim.

If a child is sexually abused all bonds of trust seem to break. This is a violation
against a person’s own physical intimacy. Such acts of physical exploitation
will be seen as spiritual violence that has disastrous effects not only on the body
but the mind as well. To recover from such an incident it might takeyears or
even a lifetime as sexually abused victims can never emotionally get over it.
It is difficult to get precise statistics on the number of sexually abused survivors
in the world as many survivors never reveal the truth. The whole tragedy is that
since the survivors never tell anyone, they are not in a position to seek
professional help to deal with the situation. Moreover the nature, duration and
circumstances of the abuse and the child’s relation with the abuser all have a
very adverse effect which does not enable his or her ability to move ahead in
life. Furthermore it is seen that more than half of the victims are below 12 years
of age mostly in the age group of four to six years. It is often seen that the
offender is usually an adult member in the family or a teacher or coach or
someone generally known to the child whom the child trusts. Childhood sexual
abuse mostly occurs at home where the child can be easily accessed by the
offender where he will not be suspected or caught. Abusers manipulate the
victim to never reveal about the abuse by using various tactics, threat being the
most common.

Considering the gravity of the problem of sexual abuse we can understand the
need to converse with children explaining to them about body safety and at the
same time keeping them safe ensuring a safe environment where they can
without hesitation express themselves. The two main issues here are firstly to
protect the child from sexual abuse and secondly to talk to your child if you
suspect sexual abuse.

PTSD HELP

Assisting Victims of PTSD – Love, Affection, Care and Attention Can Save Lives
Most people suffering from PTSD often experience extreme anxiety, insomnia and
have vivid nightmares. This can often lead to short term memory loss which in turn
could cause serious damage to a person’s psychological health. Getting the victim
treatment as soon as possible is very important so as to avoid complications.
Immediately a victim of PTSD starts to exhibit harmful tendencies, only the right
treatment will ensure that the victim eventually learns how to cope with their condition
and eventually become cured. Getting an appointment with a specialist or medical
practitioner that can accurately diagnose the victim and prescribe the best method of
treatment is the first and most important thing to do when you notice someone
exhibiting symptoms of PTSD.Helping Someone with PTSD

If you have a friend or relative that has been diagnosed with PTSD, there are ways you
can be of assistance to them. First of all, always remember to show them love and
affection as much as possible, also try to show them the brighter side of life so they
won’t be depressed. Discussing the issue or event that caused the trauma can also help.
If the PTSD isn’t too severe, a simple conversation with the person will do the loads of
good. Giving them a semblance of a normal conversation will keep them grounded.
Monica, for example, when she found out her husband Phil was diagnosed with PTSD
took him every evening to the park they met as lovers just to talk and reminisce. Within
a few weeks, the doctors discovered that Phil had made astonishing progress in his
struggle against PTSD. Keep in mind that an aura of positivity is needed for people
recovering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It is important however, not to go
overboard as this might lead to some negative effects. Meditation, yoga and other
relaxing techniques have also proven to be a huge help to PTSD patients.

Organizing reunions, small parties to show love to the victim will help them reintegrate
easily. PTSD is a very difficult condition to handle but showing these victims love,
affection, care and attention can actually save lives.

No matter how much effort you put into making PTSD patients feel better, some times
it just isn’t enough – which is why there are professionals who can properly handle the
patients. Consider taking your relative or friend to a Mental Health Counselor who can
guide and help them handle PTSD well.

Outside By Alice

Outside By Alice

Standing on the outside

 

Being in a toxic relationship is one thing all on its own, but I’m wanting to talk about being the friend or family member of someone who is in a toxic relationship. I myself have grown up watching my mother be in one and then grew up to end up in not one but two toxic relationships myself, so I feel I have a pretty good understanding of what makes a relationship bad and what it feels like to be in one. Usually you feel stuck and this could be for many reasons; such as you are truly in love with the person and just want to fix things with them, or possibly even that you have fallen victim to abuse and now have issues with leaving. I’m not going to get into the abuse part of a toxic relationship right now but focus on the support that a person needs when they are in a toxic or abusive relationship.

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As a friend or a family member its hard to see someone you care about going through something that is breaking their heart and in some cases their spirit too, changing the person you once knew into someone you barley recognize. I see two things happening after this. Either you just walk away completely from the person and tell them that they are stupid for staying and they are making a big mistake or you keep your mouth shut and you let them go on making their own decisions because really, its their life, right? So this is the touchy part. I don’t think its okay to just snip someone out because you don’t condone their choices in life, but I also don’t believe you should hold onto people who practice in toxic behavior and allow themselves to be put through such negativity in life. I find there is a fine line and of course you must use your judgment but first when doing, so start off remembering that this person you care about IS just that, a person you care about. So what can you do to help? You can be supportive!

 

Showing support and letting someone know that you care and are there for them in the decisions they make can help someone, who is feeling really down in a bad relationship, to build up confidence. Usually when someone is stuck there is a broken down self esteem that makes them feel like they are damaged goods or that no one else will want them, causing the person to feel like they are better off in the current crap relationship they are in. You want to be empathetic and compassionate when telling your friend or loved one that they deserve to be cared for and loved and in a healthy way. Try telling them all the great things that you love about them, chances are they have forgotten. Let them know that walking away will be hard but that you will be there to help them in any way that you can. They need to feel strong again in order to set themselves free.

 

That being said, there is also a time to walk away from these people. Yes even if they are a good friend and yes even if they are family. I won’t tell anyone what to do or how to do it but I know that I also have to live my life in the best way that I can and try to stay on a positive route. So if I have been trying to be there for someone so that they can leave a bad situation and get into something more positive for themselves and they don’t want to follow through and help themselves then there really is nothing more for me to do. No amount of support or love will make that person leave or make them see their worth if they don’t love themselves or are accepting to the help they need to get out. Its a hard thing to do to walk away from those you care deeply for but I feel like I’m also being a good friend/family member by showing them that I won’t allow them to be abused and that I don’t allow room for toxic relationships in MY life. I will always let them know I love and care for them and when they are ready to love and care for themselves too I will be waiting right here for them with open arms.

 

Alice

Damage Done

Damage Done

 

When an offender or perpetrator harms a child or minor physically, sexually or psychologically, it is known as sexual abuse. Though the child is not in a position to consent to any such sexual activity, it is thus considered a crime that has a lasting impact on the victim.

If a child is sexually abused all bonds of trust seem to break. This is a violation against a person’s own physical intimacy.  Such acts of physical exploitation will be seen as spiritual violence that has disastrous effects not only on the body but the mind as well. To recover from such an incident it might take years or even a lifetime as sexually abused victims can never emotionally get over it. 

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It is difficult to get precise statistics on the number of sexually abused survivors in the world as many survivors never reveal the truth. The whole tragedy is that since the survivors never tell anyone, they are not in a position to seek professional help to deal with the situation. Moreover the nature, duration and circumstances of the abuse and the child’s relation with the abuser all have a very adverse effect which does not enable his or her ability to move ahead in life. Furthermore it is seen that more than half of the victims are below 12 years of age mostly in the age group of four to six years. It is often seen that the offender is usually an adult member in the family or a teacher or coach or someone generally known to the child whom the child trusts. Childhood sexual abuse mostly occurs at home where the child can be easily accessed by the offender where he will not be suspected or caught. Abusers manipulate the victim to never reveal about the abuse by using various tactics, threat being the most common.

Considering the gravity of the problem of sexual abuse we can understand the need to converse with children explaining to them about body safety and at the same time keeping them safe ensuring a safe environment where they can without hesitation express themselves. The two main issues here are firstly to protect the child from sexual abuse and secondly to talk to your child if you suspect sexual abuse.

Sexual Abuse

Sexual Abuse

Sexual abuse can lead to some of the most traumatizing experiences ever

Sexual abuse can lead to some of the most traumatizing experiences ever and no body is meant to endure such an experience. As a parent, an individual, or a member of the society, there are a lot you can do top inadvertently prevent sexual abuse from happening to you or anybody around you. Below are some steps you could take to prevent it:

Educate yourself

In order to stand against sexual violence at all times and never be caught off guard, you should take the time to educate yourself on the myths and the facts behind it. Take for instance, a lot of people still believe sexual assaults are committed by strangers; but in actuality, 90% of most sexual assaults are perpetrated by close friends and relatives. Moreover, it’ll be wrong to let your guard down or appear sexually provocative even around the people you trust.

Don’t give off a wrong sense of gender roles

Research has shown that a lot of perpetrators of sexual abuse are victims of a rigid understanding of femininity, homophobia, and masculinity. This is usually caused by statements like “Girls don’t play football” or “pink is not a color for boys”. These statements sometimes pass wrong messages and can lead to the perpetration of sexual abuse. Additionally, homophobia has been directly linked as a cause of sexual violence or sexism.

Change begins with you

Make an effort to model proper and healthy associations to other people. You are obligated to always respect people in the society and never attempt to abuse someone immorally. At the same time, you shouldn’t keep to yourself and endure unhealthy relationships; break out because you deserve better!

Take Rape seriously

While some people make funny jokes about sexual assault and rape, you are not expected to be part of them. As a matter of fact, it is your duty to always stand up to those types of jokes and to explain how it can dramatically influence a person’s life!

Stand up for survivors

Let the people around you and in the society understand that you are willing to always provide help, resources and advice to sexual assault issues whenever they arise. This portrayal of availability can reduce the possibilities of sexual violence and make a very big difference to those who might have fallen victim to it.

In conclusion, these tips should help make the society a better place and reduce occurrences of sexual assaults around you. However, if by any means you have been a victim of this vile offence and you are having trouble dealing with the experience’s aftermath; you should immediately walk up to a mental health counselor who can help you out of that stronghold.