As we age, we go through numerous events that wear and tear our bodies emotionally and physically. It’s inevitable. Nobody in this world can say that nothing bad has ever happened to them. Some, maybe more than others. We carry that pain with us for years. Have you ever wondered why you are the way you are today? Do you think well, this is how God made me. “I’m a shy, anti-social loner and will be for the rest of my life”. “I hate big crowds so I avoid shopping as much as possible”. “I hate my physical attributes, why couldn’t I look like those celebrities”. I could go on and on about the imperfections most people face on a day to day basis.
The thing that most people don’t understand is that you can change the way you feel. You can even change the way you THINK. Imagine that. You could think differently. I laughed to myself when I first heard this idea of thinking differently, how is that even possible . My brain will always work the same way. Unless I get surgery maybe?
No, you do not need surgery to rewire your brain. What you do need to do is put in some effort. I believe that if we can conquer one thing, it creates a domino effect on the others. For example ; if you’re dealing with low self esteem and have been for years, you can alter the way you think of yourself. Which in turn will give you confidence, take away insecurities and will better your relationship with your wife/husband etc.
If your relationship has vastly improved you may start to feel happier in a battle with depression, and improve your cognitive behaviour. If your brain is functioning a lot better than before, maybe you’re improving at work, and now not so stressed over layoffs because you’re proving to be more reliable.
Now you become less stressed and able to save money because you don’t need that first beer after work every Friday from a long week.
See what I mean? It might not fall into place that perfectly, but if you give it time and patience. You’re going to see your life vastly improve. It took you 20+ years to reach a level where mental illness took control over us. So give it a year or two, in order to feel the best you have ever felt.
If this is you or you’re dealing with a different illness, I have pages on various topics and am anticipating more to come including PTSD and postpartum depression.